Definition of Weird: deviating from the customary:
bizarre, cranky, curious, eccentric, erratic, freakish, idiosyncratic, … (naturally)
Causing puzzlement; perplexing: (my neurotypical husband would testify to this)
Until a few years ago, I fought my weirdness. I hid the weird. I supressed the weird.
Where’s your will to be weird? Jim Morrison
Hidden under the desperate need to be invisible, Jim.
Fighting my weirdness was like trying to keep afloat on a punctured lifeboat where drowning was inevitable – it was just a question of time. This was me for forty plus years – floundering against the unrelenting current of neurotypical bullshit until one day I went under the surface and that, my friends, is an analogy for nervous breakdown.
A year later, a clinical psychologist informed me that my ‘weirdness’ had a name – Autism. This person, in effect, threw me a lifeline, and I’ve been making my way back to shore ever since.
There’s a whole category of people who miss out by not allowing themselves to be weird enough. Alain De Botton
Some autistic people reject the word ‘weird’ and that’s fine. It’s about perception and personal preference, but I prefer to see ‘weird’ as a positive.
Also, where people see weirdness – I see creativity.
“Weirdism is definitely the cornerstone of many an artist’s career.” E A Bucchianeri
Take Andy Warhol. ‘Weird’ was a word that was often used where he was concerned, but the man was creative and made a fortune out of thinking outside of the box. At the time of his death his net worth was equal to $220 million dollars!
Newsflash: He was most likely autistic!
Warhol’s behavioural traits strongly suggest autism. His social and communication issues, obsessions and repetitive style totally do it for me. I mean, it’s possible that some of it was a persona to make him to stand out from the crowd, and maybe he was just really shit at interviews, but given that he thoroughly examined packages of underwear before buying 28 pairs of the same pair – I’m confident in the theory that he probably was autistic.
For fans of Warhol, however, the suggestion that their hero’s view of the world was impaired by a mental disorder is upsetting. It undermines the idea that he knowingly shaped our understanding of pop art. ~ Vanessa Thorpe (The Guardian – Was autism the secret of Warhol’s art)
Mental disorder? I thought we were talking about autism?
Does this mean that Gary Numan fans binned their records when he ‘came out’ as autistic because it, like, totally ruined their enjoyment of “Music For Chameleons” – if Alan Partridge’s air guitar-ing hadn’t already, that is. Because Gazza had already been told he probably had Aspergers when he was 15, and it was fairy obvious that he wasn’t your average 80s pop star!
Coincidentally, “Are Friends Electric?” was the first record I ever bought- which I reckon is apt- and not just because Gary is autistic, but because most of my ‘friends’ live in my computer which makes them ‘electric’ – kind of.
While we’re on the subject of singers..
Susan Boyle was formally diagnosed in 2012. She’s one of us, and she played an absolute blinder in her audition for Britain’s Got Talent, or Britain’s Quick to Judge, as it was known back then..
Modern society is too quick to judge people on their appearances. … There is not much you can do about it; it is the way they think; it is the way they are. But maybe this could teach them a lesson, or set an example. – The Washington Post
They call it a ‘parable’ of modern times. I call it one in the balls for society because, alongside Susan’s phenomenal voice, was the sound of a few million mouths hitting the floor..
I dreamed a dream in time gone by (THUD THUD THUD THUD times a few million) when hope was high and life worth living…
Susan was the favourite to win but dance troupe Diversity threw a small teenager into the air and that was that, mate. No matter, the show made Susan famous anyway and she’s still keeping in real in her ex-council four-bedroomed house – which makes me love her even more!
People have mistaken Susan’s meltdowns (caused by severe anxiety) for diva behaviour, but this lady likes a toastie before a performance and isn’t arsed about what her dressing room looks like! You want to see diva? Try Mariah Carey!
Miss Boyle also has a really great sense of humour…
“Knowing my luck I’d go out on a date and you’d find my limbs scattered around various Blackburn dustbins!”
That’s my kind of humour – dark, but funny.
Personally, I wish Susan all the very best and I’m proud of her for being her authentic self.
If people ridicule us for being ‘weird’, it’s because they’re uneducated about autism, misinformed or just boring as fuck, and instead of taking offence I suggest we take it as a compliment and reply with: ‘Thank you so much!’ and smile at them because it will freak them out, and after all, being freaky is part of the definition of weird, no?
If you’re autistic that makes you I in 100, and if people can’t deal with that – it’s their problem.
Weird people are the best people.